When the bride in this video was 6, she told her mom she wanted to save her kiss. My daughter said something different.
“Mom, all my girlfriends have boyfriends! I need a boyfriend!”
That announcement from my kindergarten gal began with a shock to my system and resulted in a story that inspired many other princesses to save their kisses.
Time after time I’ve reminded people that purity is about way more than saving a physical kiss. Many of us don’t manage it, and that doesn’t mean we’re damaged goods. But if we don’t set our sights on some standards like this, we’re likely to be dragged into the world’s way of approaching relationships — whatever happens, happens — and we often regret what comes to pass.
Charlie and Makenzee have two different stories. Makenzee told her mom she wanted to save her kiss when she was 6 and read The Princess and the Kiss. Charlie grew up in church, wandered, and returned to his commitment to Christ a few years before they married. When he met Makenzee, he knew he wanted a life with that kind of commitment, and he actually stopped her from kissing him when they became engaged, saying, “God forbid that something could happen and I could take the kiss you’ve saved so long for your husband.”
Would this not tell you that you were marrying the right man?? Check out his reaction to his bride in this video and you’ll know Makenzee’s commitment to purity paid off! But Charlie also says that the greater part of his awe was recognizing God’s great grace towards him personally after his wild hiatus from a faithful life.
Walter Wangerin talks about the difference between real love and “sham” (fake) love. He says that sham love wants to possess the beloved, but real love wants to set the beloved free and to protect them. Saving our first kiss isn’t the only model for real love; however, The Princess and the Kiss causes us all to consider what we will hold sacred and how we will set ourselves apart for someone to whom we would commit our whole life by making a covenant before God. Seems like pretty heavy material for a children’s book, but almost 500,000 readers love the story.
Whether they choose to save their physical kiss or set other standards that require restraint and patience—and whether they choose this when they’re 6 or 22 or 64—people do so out of a desire to protect their beloveds and to set themselves and their marriages apart for God. These people believe marriage is more than a religious ceremony and sex is more than a casual high, and we need more like them. Kara Brown of KB Studios brings this particular couple’s testimony to the screen in a beautiful way, and so I’m glad to share it here with our readers.
You can choose to save your “kiss,” too, no matter what’s transpired in the past. Look at Makenzee and Charlie. Men and women all over the world are doing it every day!
Please share this video in as many ways and as many times as possible so others can discover the rewards of this kind of waiting! Let’s draw more and more people to consider a more reverent and self-controlled approach to relationships, devoting themselves to the pursuit of life-long marriages!