The Five Doors is a key element of Planned Purity training for families. Most parents think about purity training as having to do mostly with sex. At PurityWorks, we believe purity is mostly about transforming and training the heart. Once the heart is right, sexual purity will be much easier to embrace.
The Five Doors simply means that we see the five senses as doors to the heart. Each one of us has the power to open the doors to noble things or close these doors to selfish things to keep our hearts pure.
We often use a poster with five doors to train young children. To an innocent child, it’s enough to know that some things shouldn’t be looked at and some things should, some words shouldn’t be listened to, respect of life is a no-brainer, kind words must be spoken, and hitting or kicking are no-nos, etc. Over the course of time and in day-to-day life, the parent will explain details of household standards by their actions and comments.
But that’s not the end of the value of the Five Doors. As a child nears puberty and starts to experience interest in the opposite sex, the Five Doors can be used to consider more direct questions involving sexual purity. Guarding the eyes will relate to modesty, flirting and objectification, guarding the ears will relate to musical choices and advice from others, and guarding the breath will relate to respecting others’ bodies by saving sexual interaction for marriage. Guarding the mouth will relate to keeping conversation standards high, and guarding the skin will relate to saving sexuality for marriage.
But wait … there’s more. The Five Doors are still useful to remind adult singles of standards and to keep married couples considering how they ought to look at, listen to, respect, talk to and sexually enjoy their spouses.
At PurityWorks we believe that true purity takes years of practice, conversation and development. One talk just won’t do it. The Five Doors of the Heart, however, keeps the conversation going for a lifetime. We encourage you to make your own Five Doors poster and use it with your family!
Visit our photo gallery to see Jennie giving a typical Five Doors presentation for children.
The Five Doors simply means that we see the five senses as doors to the heart. Each one of us has the power to open the doors to noble things or close these doors to selfish things to keep our hearts pure.
We often use a poster with five doors to train young children. To an innocent child, it’s enough to know that some things shouldn’t be looked at and some things should, some words shouldn’t be listened to, respect of life is a no-brainer, kind words must be spoken, and hitting or kicking are no-nos, etc. Over the course of time and in day-to-day life, the parent will explain details of household standards by their actions and comments.
But that’s not the end of the value of the Five Doors. As a child nears puberty and starts to experience interest in the opposite sex, the Five Doors can be used to consider more direct questions involving sexual purity. Guarding the eyes will relate to modesty, flirting and objectification, guarding the ears will relate to musical choices and advice from others, and guarding the breath will relate to respecting others’ bodies by saving sexual interaction for marriage. Guarding the mouth will relate to keeping conversation standards high, and guarding the skin will relate to saving sexuality for marriage.
But wait … there’s more. The Five Doors are still useful to remind adult singles of standards and to keep married couples considering how they ought to look at, listen to, respect, talk to and sexually enjoy their spouses.
At PurityWorks we believe that true purity takes years of practice, conversation and development. One talk just won’t do it. The Five Doors of the Heart, however, keeps the conversation going for a lifetime. We encourage you to make your own Five Doors poster and use it with your family!
Visit our photo gallery to see Jennie giving a typical Five Doors presentation for children.
