Maybe it seems odd to you to see a PurityWorks logo that seems kind of dark and fantastic, and not something glowing and white (I did have the designers add sparkles on one version). But the pursuit of purity isn’t all white and perfect.
When The Princess and the Kiss became a best-seller, everyone was so excited about the story because it seemed to celebrate saving an actual “first kiss” for marriage.
That’s a noble undertaking physically. But I kept talking to people who were broken because they hadn’t saved their kisses and felt disqualified from purity because of it.
No one is disqualified from being pure, no matter what they’ve done. Period. If they were, I’d have to step down from leading this organization. I didn’t save my kiss. I’ve lied. I’ve stolen. I’ve ignored my children and refused my husband. But in my heart, I want to be truly pure. I’m learning to surrender my heart, and getting stronger. We all can.
The meaning of purity is so much broader than the Princess’ physical restraint in the book. Purity was never exclusively about kisses or sex. Purity is first and foremost a condition of the heart, and anyone who falls to their knees can approach it.
To win the fight for purity (and it IS a fight), we have to start with the heart. That’s where our life comes from. That’s why PurityWorks was formed and the Planned Purity system of training was developed—to break out of the traditional “sexual purity for teenagers” model. Our kids have to avoid good behaviors that only hide a heart that really doesn’t care about anyone else. That can never lead to purity, sexual or otherwise.
I, you, and our children need to know how important purity is, and also how to fail, find forgiveness, and forgive others. We need a sense of humor, a little more humanity and a lot more transparency.
I love you for reading. I love you for loving The Princess. Let’s go a little deeper and have a little fun. Are you in?